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Jar of Coins

Frank Szabo was big and ugly, “a huge monstrosity of a man,” as my grandfather described him.  They first met during World War II.  Frank was a little older than the others in the outfit and seen as serious and mature.  My grandfather soon discovered he was also kind and humble, and Frank’s gentleness and consideration impressed him in one particular incident involving a vulnerable young woman at a party:

After this incident, my grandfather and Frank became good friends.  And then, in early 1943, their outfit was taking a troop train from Cherry Point, North Carolina, to San Diego.  The train was scheduled to pass through New Bern, where Frank’s wife was to be waiting. Read more

Love and Gravity, Part 2

“Better be without sense, than misapply it as you do.”
― Jane Austen

Readers may recall my anxiety over being set up with a guy not named Ken, and my relief when, as he reconciled with his ex-girlfriend, it turned out that nothing at all was required of me.

So, what’s up with Ken and the ex-ex-girlfriend now?  How did they bridge the baby gulf and find love again?

“Oh, I’m so glad you asked!” Sally, my friend who was playing matchmaker, said.  “He broke up with his girlfriend and moved out!”

Uh oh.
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Love and Gravity

“Ah! There is nothing like staying at home, for real comfort.” ― Jane Austen

Once, I was talking with a friend whose real name is not Sally about one of her husband’s friends, “Ken,” whom she was trying to set me up with.

“These things never take,” I said.

“I think he’s depressed,” she said.  He had recently broken up with his girlfriend.  “Maybe you’ll cheer him up.”

“Hmmm, doubtful.”

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Year of Revisiting #9 – The Ghost and Mrs. Muir

“You can be much more alone with other people than you are by yourself. Even if it’s people you love.”

It had been years since I had seen The Ghost and Mrs. Muir, though as a love story and a ghost story it had stood out in my memory among the many movies I watched as a child.

Rex Harrison plays Daniel, a deceased sailor, who haunts Gene Tierney’s widow Lucy Muir when she moves into his home. What surprised me most about the movie, after maybe two decades since my last viewing, was not Daniel, whose blatant sexism I tried not to judge too harshly by today’s standards, but Lucy, who is a spinster in the most modern, positive sense. After her husband dies, she breaks free of her overbearing in-laws to live with her daughter in a haunted cottage by the water. “I never had a life of my own,” she says early on and throughout the film makes similar statements. When I was young, the chaste love story was the draw and I doubt Lucy’s independence and satisfyingly solitary life even registered. As an adult, I see the movie as a story about a woman making a life on her own. Read more

Ten Best Holiday Rom-Coms on Netflix Instant

G.G. Andrew and I watched a bunch of holiday rom-coms to bring you the best, posted down below and also on her fun site here.

It’s probably a given most of you are watching Love Actually this holiday season, even if you hate it.  It’s Christmassy, it has swoon, it’s got Hugh fucking Grant. But after the credits roll, you’ve probably still got wrapping and card-writing and a craving to watch people kiss in the snow. These ten other holiday romances on Netflix Instant are all sweet, funny choices that pair well with hot cocoa. Plus you’ll see those stars from 90210 or Saved by the Bell aged over a decade and sporting earmuffs and holiday cheer.

12 Dates of Christmas

The movie begins with a dig at Nicholas Sparks, and one of the characters, in talking about the tragic death of his wife, says it was “no great Lifetime Channel tragedy.”  Zing!  This is not one of those Christmas movies.  The movie-equivalent of a Christmas cheese ball, 12 Dates is sweet and tasty and nutty and a little bitter all at once.  Kate (Amy Smart) is set up on a blind date with Miles (Zach Morris. I mean… Mark-Paul Gosselaar) for Christmas Eve.  (Do people really go on blind dates on Christmas Eve?)  The problem is she’s still hung up on her ex-boyfriend (Benjamin Ayres), whom she ditches Miles to see, and she’s kind of a jerk to a bunch of additional people along the way.  No worries, though, because at midnight her day starts again with Amy waking up in a department store, after having been spritzed by some apparently magical perfume and fainting.  She ends up reliving Christmas Eve twelve times and by the end has learned some important lessons.  I’m a sucker for stories in the A Christmas Carol and It’s a Wonderful Life vein: anything that shows you what a tool you’ve been and gives you a do-over until you get it right.  It’s probably not hard to see why movies with these themes are so perfectly suited to Christmas, when we’re all supposed to have a little holly in our hearts.

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